Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Emotional Manipulation Tactics Series - Denial: A Simple Case Of Lying

I'm approaching the end of the emotional manipulation tactics series but I still have, at least, one more video explaining how the passive aggressive person attempts to control others.

I will keep diving into how to cope and ways of healing from a Narcissistic / Psychopathic Abusive relationship after most ( there are a lot!) of the tactics are explained. 

I believe that by learning these tactics we will be better equipped to recognize what is going on if we ever stumble upon emotionally abusive people. 

It's not easy to see in the moment, but later analysis will help the truth prevail, at least you will be able to make sense out of the gaslighting effect, if by any chance, you happen to be going through a situation like this.

In this video I explain: Denial, Lying by Omission and Lying by Distortion. 

I hope you find this helpful!

Friday, May 18, 2018

Emotional Manipulation Tactics Series - Playing The Victim Role

Playing The Victim Role and Vilifying The Victim are two manipulation tactics frequently used together.

In these series of videos about Narcissistic and Emotional Abusive People we are learning how to deal with, and recognize these individuals. 

I'm interested in reaching everybody that finds this interesting, and also people that are currently going through this type of abuse and may not be aware yet, or may not know how to make sense of what is happening to them. 

If you know of somebody that might be experiencing this, feel free to share my content. 

I'm uploading one video per week to bring awareness about this damaging mental health epidemic.

As a Master of Science in Professional Counseling I feel the need to reach as many people as I can in order to bring hope and reassurance. If you are going through this, let me say that you will be able to make sense of what's happening and will finally be able to understand these dynamics once you start empowering yourself through getting the information you need.

Neurosurgeon, rocket scientist, baker, or teacher, this can happen to anybody, and I believe that learning about this type of disordered people is the first step to healing.    

I hope you find this video helpful and empowering! 

P.S. More on this here and here and here

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Projection: " it's not me, it's you"

Have you ever received an accusation that was so far fetched that you thought it was completely crazy, so far from how you feel?

If you did, I'm pretty sure it was somebody else's projection.

In this video I explain what projection is and how this unconscious defense mechanism that we all have, enhances to toxic levels in emotionally abusive people and relationships.

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

What is Gaslighting?

When someone manipulates you into questioning your own reality, feelings, and/or actions which in turn makes you doubt about your own sanity. 

Ariel Leve grew up in an environment where gaslighting was the norm, so she developed personality traits that would help her cope with such a caregiver. 

What she never stopped doing was to remain defiant. Whenever her mother told her that whatever she was saying was not real, or didn't happen she'd hold her ground and confront her. She recalls this defense mechanism as key to remain sane.

I'm going to be reviewing all the tactics I know of that emotional manipulators and pathological personalities use in order to control their prey/victim.

I don't like to use the term "victim" because I feel like it entails a no-hope aspect to it. Nevertheless, going through this puts you in such a place. 

However, by learning the tactics toxic people use in order to fulfill their psychological needs, a victim can thrive.

More on this in today's video!