Highly narcissistic people don't validate emotions that aren't congruent with their own agenda. They can simply ignore what you are expressing, minimize it, go to the extent of denying your own emotions, guilt trip you for having them, or even mock you for feeling a certain way.
That, in and of itself is traumatically frustrating for other adults and if endured during a long period of time can lead to chronic deteriorations in a person's psyche caused by this kind of abusive behavior.
Now imagine the object of this devaluing behavior is a kid who is looking up to his or her parent to learn how to behave in the world and how to handle emotions. It would create a complete mess to say the least.
Luckily, if you are the other parent. The healthier one. You can model what is supposed to happen when we experience any emotion. And it can be enough if you make a point of talking with them about it.
In today's video I explain why anger is a secondary emotion and why it's very healthy to express it.
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