Co parenting with a narcissist is a devastating reality for many moms around the globe. Devastating because any type of interaction with these covert passive aggressive predators will leave a toll on your emotional health.
And yet, you have to deal with them.
What is the Grey Rock Technique?
It consists of presenting yourself as boring as a rock: emotionless, and uninteresting.
Why?
So that the narcissist won't be able to get supply from you. Supply being your emotions, your attention, your concern for them, pity, anger, and so on. Supply is the reason why abusers abuse.
Maintaining their grandiosity takes a lot of work for them. They make up stories of injustice, presenting themselves as victims, they distort the truth, and other manipulation tactics that provoke a range of emotions in the victim.
When they finally achieve their goal, which is to make the victim feel devalued, angry and confused, that's when their grandiosity levels rise back up.
Victim feels devalued, abuser feels "more than".
When they get finally obtain the attention, positive or negative, from the victim, again, they regulate their psychological state. So any emotion that you interchange is "food" for the abuser.
The Grey Rock technique is a good alternative for when No Contact is not one hundred percent possible.
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