The narcissistic discard is cold, ruthless, and unexpected.
It's not only about the ending of a relationship, or about infidelity. It's a traumatic experience that is foreign to normal people.
This is another story.
1) It's about being used, tricked, gaslighted, manipulated, devalued, compared to new supply, triangulated, ignored, minimized, falsely accused, invalidated, subtly, covertly, and overtly, by the person you trusted.
2) All this while the narcissist is telling everyone else that he or she is the victim.
Yup. Crazy stuff. Soap opera material.
However weird, the discard has even one more layer of crazy.
3) For this betrayal to happen to the person that cared the most about the welfare of the narcissist represents the ultimate paradox.
The level of betrayal that a victim of narcissistic abuse is faced with is so different from what other people experience normally that regular terms and semantics end up being not enough.
This is why victims of this type of abuse use terms such as love bombing, hoovering, gaslighting, flying monkeys, going grey rock, and word salad.
Whether you spent a lifetime in a relationship with a covert narcissist, or a few months with a malignant narcissist the discard is the event you may have struggled with the most.
However, if you are being discarded right now let me explain why it's not about you and let me help you understand.
Please watch today's video here in English and here in Spanish.
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