5 Manipulation Tactics That Narcissists Use

"Dripping water hollows out stone, not through force, but through persistence." -Ovid, 0034-

1) Dripping 

I singled out this manipulation tactic all by myself, thank you very much... and called it dripping because, like Ovid, I've witnessed the power of persistence. 

Persistence used in a productive way is so powerful and amazingly positive. However, if one uses it to the detriment of others, it can be deadly.

Dripping would be your cult-like brainwashing repetition of calculated comments and ideas that are handcrafted to mold someone else's values, beliefs, and reality. Dripping happens over a long period of time.

This includes comments, said ever so subtly, about your friends, family or even about core values, and beliefs. Always purposefully trying to shift your perception on people, and ideas that usually are dear to you and that the narcissist really wants you to change. 

I believe this is how they try to change your reality and values.

Other ways this happens is by insisting on the same story that they want you to buy, which is 85 percent a lie. This is one of the ways they recruit flying monkeys.

Another example of this happens when narcissists engage in Parental Alienation which is incredibly damaging to children and would deserve a blog post of its own. 

The rest of the tactics I mentioned in the video  were defined in the book "In Sheep's Clothing" by Dr. George Simon. I recommend this book if you are interested in learning more about these issues.

2) Reality Distortions (Lying by Omission and Lying by Avoiding Details)

3) Playing the Victim and Vilifying the Victim

4) Projecting the Blame.

5) Diversion.